The road to becoming a better person: Gossiping is not a good hobby =[

Wherever there are people, there'll be talks.
And wherever there are talks, sooner or later there'll be gossips too.


I don't understand xinmsn.
1 of their advertisements talks about becoming a better gossiper.
Why would anyone in their right minds want to be a better gossiper????
Don't they know that gossips are not good?
I think it is different if a fan wants to know more about their idol, but.....
I don't think anyone would want to become a better at gossping.

For you who agrees with me that gossiping is an unhealthy activity,
it is not enough to just keep quiet and not join in the talking.
No, you got to stand firm in your opinion.
You have to show your dislike about it.
Either politely asked them to stop talking about this subject,
or leave the group and walk away.

It is hard, because we all want people to like us,
but it is necessary to spread the message.
Stand up and walk off (even if it is in the middle of a conversation) if you have to.
As long as the people get that you dont approve of gossips, its good.
If they starts seeing you in a negative light, then something is not right with your companions.
You need to start looking for people who are not so shallow and be friends with them.


There is a very fine line with a sharing information, a causal talk and gossiping.
The motives behind talking must be clear to conscience.
Talking in order to understand the person better, idle chat to kill time, having fun.
Or speak with intentions of spreading false testimony, rumors, and influence hate/dislike.

I won't learn your hate.

I'm not saying that I'm always a prim and proper person.
I gossip too.
In the past, there was a group of friends whom I really liked.
But I wasn't a very sociable person, I really don't know how to talk to people.
So our chat topic would always be work, or food or making fun of people.
When I realized what I was doing, I stopped myself.
And it seems that they appreciates it too.

As time passes, it'll come very naturally that you'll draw the line very clearly and you will not cross it.
You won't even go near those topics.

The road to becoming a better person. =]

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God Bless.
=]

Ephesians 4:29
Don't use foul or abusive language. 
Let everything you say be good and helpful, 
so that your words will be an encouragement to those who hear them.