Future in Planning: My Funeral

Yesterday, we had attend a funeral of a distant relative.

In our bloodline, most are traditional chinese.

When I was told that we are going to attend a funeral,

Joss sticks was one of the first things that popped into my head.

I'll be paying my respects, but I don't want to hold a joss stick.

It kills my zealousness for God.

I was thinking of how to tell my parents 

and get away with not holding the joss sticks till the very last minute 

and I entered the room.

I give my thanks to you, Mr Lee. 

And of course, Thank God.

It is like a semi-christian funeral. No joss stick.

I have been informed that Mr Lee is a free thinker, 

But looking at the set, you must have like Jesus too.

Although I am not sure how close you are to Him, 

I pray that you are with Him now, at peace.

Through the wake, I realised that my family don't really know anything about a Christian funeral.

Makes me worried....

I'm going to plan my funeral as if it is my wedding.

Because I truly believe that God loves me.

When I die, I'll be dying in this earthly body in His timing.

I'll be going back home to God.

And to me, it is an event to rejoice.

Even more so than my actual wedding itself. (If I ever gets married)

Because I am the only Chirstian in my family, (I'm praying for family converts)

I thought that I should at least leave some instructions behind if God decides to bring me home earlier,

for my quite clueless-about-Christ-and-inclined-to-be-a-little-bit-traditional family.

To be honest, I too do not know what a proper Christian funeral is like, 

I'll just do it my way.

And hopefully, God approves of it.

Firstly, the "No,thanks".

No joss sticks

No burning incense

No chanting

No ahmitoufuo

I want a funeral that honours my God.

I heard that instead of joss sticks, people offer flowers.

I love flowers. =]

And a bible would be placed on the front table.

Also, some things I like, Choppar? Maybe???

Secondly, the timings.

Let's have a ceremony.

If it is on a weekday, then around 8PM.

If it is on a weekend, then around 1PM.

Really hoped that the people who matters to me can attend.

I would like to give a last speech and thank them for the wonderful life I have had. 

(Not directly from me, maybe my sister can read it out for me. Mun Please?)

I should be hiding what I wanted to say somewhere in my room.

I shouldn't be boastful but I'm really awesome at hide and seek.

I just hope that someone will find it before the ceremony.

=P

hmm... I have seen in movies that you give affirmation to the dead.

Yup, we should do that too.

But I rather you say it to me while I'm still healthy and breathing.

Again, my family, I don't think they know what to do for this section.

It would be great if a brother or sister in Christ could lead this part.

Thirdly, the venue.

Just under the block or the multi-purpose hall will do.

Traditional chinese furnerals would last at least 3 to 7 days.

But seriously? 

If you can prepare and have the ceremony within 1 day, 

I think that's all I need.

The tomb and table, flowers and a bible.

Chairs for visitors and drinks by the side.

Some fans around. 

Yup, one day is enough.

Besides, in singapore where weather is hot and humid not matter what season it is,

I don't think that the body can be kept long.

And no matter if it is work or school, I don't want to keep my family from what they were doing.

And don't waste too much money on the funeral.

I don't want a air-coned tomb. Not necessary in my opinion.

Just put a pack of plain water beside me in the tomb.

I have heard people waking up for a glass of water and I don't want to scared you if I do that too.

So I'll just find the water beside me for a drink and try not to bother you.

Fourthly, the people.

I'll keep a list of guest around.

And probably their contact information too.

It should be around somewhere in the room.

Lastly.

After the cremation, I think it would be best to throw away the ashes.

I've thought before of throwing it into the sea, but it would cause pollution.

And I don't think it is legal.

I don't want it to be kept at a temple, like my ancestors.

How many times must I emphsize that I am a Christian?

I think it's creepy to keep it at home...

So just throw it away.

Since I don't think it'll be needed anyway.

Just in case if you are wondering as you read this post,

I am not going to commit sucide.

So although I'm thankful, please don't worry about me.

And this post is for the benefit of my family if I were to leave before them.

I just pray that I will be able to complete what He wants me to do before time's up.

I pray that if I had a sudden death, the people around me would be happy for me to gain a perfect life eternally instead of focusing over the lost of my time here on earth.

I also, pray that that people I know, I'll see them again in Heaven.

Well, this is if I die before Jesus comes back the second time.

God bless.

=]